Our Words During Confrontation

Before you speak,
Let your words pass
Through three gates:

Is it true?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?

 Reading today in 2 Samuel 19, there is much confrontation. During confrontation, the words we use carry so much power because they can build up or tear down. Using the right words can give a lift in a time of need. Using the wrong words can cause people to go their separate ways and cause disunity.

 Instead of celebrating a victory gained in a war, we note that David was mourning the death of Absalom his son who was killed in the battle. Things don’t always work out how we want and that’s when we need someone that will lift us up or set us straight instead of bringing us further down. That person for David was Joab who confronted David about his downcast mood.

 Joab advised David to go out and thank his men for their hard-fought victory. To give them encouragement or else they may feel as though David didn’t appreciate them and leave by nightfall (v. 7). One lesson from today’s passage is that when there is conflict created in the situations we go through, have faith that God has everything in control. Maintain composure, say what needs to be said, and try to get everyone on the same page.

 Another issue faced is the national problem that we note in today’s passage because Israel had anointed Absalom as king. There was arguing among themselves (v. 9). Also, there was a rivalry between Israel and Judah which complicated things even further. It is during times of conflict that we should pray, stay on God’s path, and trust in God’s care.

 This day with You Lord, we need a heart of faith, the courage to confront others but have a forgiving heart. We ask today, that in our confrontations, we say what needs to be said in a tactful way. Help us give advice and guidance in a loving way so what You want is carried out. Amen.

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