If you cry for everything that happens to you, you are weak. 

And if you are afraid to be ever found crying, you are also weak.

 

If you cannot stand those who weep, 

Or cannot bear to be seen with weak people, 

Or cannot weep with them

You may not be weak, but neither are you strong; 

 

You are simply hard. 

 

Weakness easily bends into any shape, and easily breaks into any number of pieces

Hardness is difficult to break, but some kinds of pressure make it suddenly shatter, because it cannot bend.

Because hardness is difficult to break, it is a type of strength

But because it cannot bend, it is a type of weakness

 

True strength bends in practice but it will never break in principle

 

Men usually think they are stronger than women

That is not mostly true

 

They are mostly harder, not stronger

Women are mostly stronger than men

This is why they easily take care of babies

 

Strength is defined by its ability to bear the weakness of the weak.

 

Jesus, except when He took upon Himself, our weakness; was never weak

He was the strongest of all men, and He wept. 

 

Tears shed for self are usually of weakness 

Tears shed for others are usually of strength

 

Jesus loved little children 

There is an element of childlikeness in true strength. 

 

Childlikeness…hmm

 

Fathers, beware: hardness kills the boy in the man, and the girl in the woman.

 

Hardness says “Kill the boy and let the man be born.” 

 

The man won’t be born, the boy will simply be hardened. And we have many hardened boys today who cannot change diapers or hold the home together for one day; but can easily neglect their children, and beat up their wives.

 

And many hardened girls who cannot respect their husbands for one second, who tell their daughters “your happiness is all that matters, you don’t need a man for anything. All men are cheaters”. (Cheats)

 

That’s hardness talking, not strength. Life has hardened them ..

 

Only God is guaranteed to take a weak person through the pressures, pleasures and injustices of life, and through them make him or her become strong, without developing a hard heart.

 

Mothers, beware: weakness kills the man in the boy, and the woman in the girl.

 

Weakness cries “Leave the boy, leave the boy, even if he doesn’t want to be a man. Please leave him!” 

 

If you leave him, he will be an overgrown boy, who can open his mouth for food and shout for soccer, but cannot raise his daughter or defend his wife; 

 

But strength says “Discipline the boy, he will not die. Train the girl, and she will live to be the woman the girl would have been proud of”

 

The old school way of raising children is hard; because inflicting punishment is not discipline. It will threaten and punish the child for asking a question about sex!

 

The new school way of raising children is weak; because withholding treats is not discipline. It waits for the child to determine if (s)he wants to be a boy or a girl!

 

But the good school raises children to be strong, strong in God, strong in their hearts, and strong for their families and their societies.

 

Because when a nation is strong, you see it in their families.

And when the family is strong, you see it in their children.

 

So fathers, existing, impending, or intending

Over to up. We are in dire need of real Fathers

 

And it is neither hardness nor weakness that makes the girl a woman; or the boy, a man…

 

It is Strength.

 

So be strong for the children, especially yours

 

For the child is the father of the man

And children, the future of the clan

Sarah Darlingmooreis a seasoned freelance writer with vast experience crafting Spirit-led content that inspires and equips believers. She blends biblical truth with practical application to help individuals, brands, and organizations share their message effectively. With a background in ministry as a church leader and discipleship teacher, Sarah’s writing is informed by her passion for spiritual growth and her commitment to empowering believers. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Modern Languages and Communication Studies from the University of Calabar, Nigeria.

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