Marriage: Blessing or Burden
“Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love…” — Ecclesiastes 9:9
Life rarely announces the moments that matter. Most of the time, they slip in quietly—right through the front door at the end of an ordinary day. I’ve noticed how easy it is to let those moments pass. My spouse walks in, tired from the weight of the world, and I’m still caught up in my own thoughts, my own screens, my own pace. Yet Scripture gently calls me back: Enjoy life with the one you love. Not eventually. Not when things slow down. But now.
Ecclesiastes reminds me that life is fleeting, like a breath on a cold morning. That’s not meant to discourage me—it’s meant to wake me up. These everyday interactions, the ones I’m tempted to rush past, are actually gifts from God. They’re opportunities to love well in the middle of the ordinary.
Proverbs paints the picture of a spouse as a treasure—someone whose presence brings trust, goodness, and stability. That kind of relationship doesn’t appear out of thin air. It grows through small, intentional choices. Through kindness when I’m tired. Through gentleness when I’m frustrated. Through attention when it would be easier to withdraw.
Proverbs 31:10 (ESV): “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels”.
Ephesians 5:22–33: Outlines roles, advising wives to submit to husbands and husbands to love wives sacrificially.
Hebrews 13:4: Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Throughout history, societies have grappled with questions of morality and ethical behavior. Among the many dimensions of this moral landscape, issues related to personal conduct, such as adultery and sexual immorality, have often been subjects of intense scrutiny and debate.
And then Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians remind me that marriage is a place of mutual giving. Not one person pouring out while the other receives, but both offering themselves in love—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It’s a relationship built on shared responsibility and shared grace.
So today, I want to practice something simple but sacred. When my spouse comes home, I’ll pause what I’m doing. I’ll meet them at the door. I’ll look them in the eyes. I’ll ask, “What was the hardest part of your day?” And then I’ll listen—not to respond, not to fix, but to understand. Because sometimes the most Christlike thing I can offer is my full presence.
In a world full of noise and hurry, showing up for the person God has entrusted to me is an act of worship. It’s a way of saying, “This moment matters. You matter.” And often, that’s where love grows strongest—quietly, faithfully, in the small moments God keeps giving.
Prayer
Lord, help me to slow down and see the person you’ve given me. Teach me to listen with patience, to give without counting cost, and to make small acts of love into a life of faithfulness. In Jesus name I ask this in, Amen.
Patrick Brown was born at Davis Monthan Air Force Base in Tucson, AZ on February 25th, 1949. He became a Christian Believer when he stepped off the plane in Vietnam in 1971. Since that time, he has devoted his life to the Lord through ministering as a Sunday School teacher in various churches in Mississippi. He is a graduate of Exploding Evangelism (EE) and certified as a Gospel Evangelist Trainer. Patrick is a member on staff at Christian Grandfather Magazine in charge of Daily Devotionals. He and his wife, Sherrilyn, enjoy retirement in Ridgeland, MS. They have two Daughters, five Grandsons and two Great Grandsons.
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Yes, marriage becomes a burden and a battlefield when it is based on passion, frivolous amusements, personal adornment, display, and pride. However, it becomes a happy companionship , partnership and spiritual growth, when it is based on spiritual understanding.
Your friend – His servant,
Isaac Otieno